Yesterday afternoon I was reflecting on one of the little nuggets my mother left for me before she passed (actually two of them) â€œIn three years are we going to worry about it?â€ and â€œIf youâ€™re walking on thin ice you might as well dance!â€Â My life has been, in many ways, a testament to her way of thinking (sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse).
Of course, she was not my only influence.Â From an uncle I garnered â€œconfront unpleasantries directlyâ€, advice that has served me without fail, when I have remembered to use it.Â My Step-mother gave me what practically I have, and I would be willing to bet Iâ€™d have been in jail or on the street at least once in my life if not for her grounded approach to life.Â Without my father I would never have learned that its okay not to grow up (in some ways) and I certainly would have lost much of the youth have managed to cling to well beyond its normal life expectancy.Â I could go on, but you get the idea
Of course my life has also been influenced by forces and people outside my family.Â From the teachings of great people like MLK and simple quotes like â€œhope is not a strategyâ€ and â€œyour enemy is never a villain in his own mind…â€ to watching women, as they taught me by example something my testosterone addled brain would never have come up with on its own… what it really is to truly be in love (and, sadly, to fall out of it); I have built my character, one sentence at a time.
Reflecting on this, I thought perhaps I should get a fresh infusion of sentences.Â Especially since I have two impressionable lives that Iâ€™m going to be sending out into the world eventually.Â So I put the question to my socnet, â€œIn one sentence, what advice would you give to your child to prepare them for the world?â€
Here, in no particular order are some of the responses I received.Â With any luck they will resonate, collectively, with you as they do with me, and I will have accomplished something bigger than my original objective of a character refresher for my self and my two young boys .
(Note, I did not clean up any punctuation, etc. in these, they are *exactly* as they came to me)
Never stop dreaming
keep your integrity intact
**what you focus on you attract**
be still ….and trust
Treat others how you want to be treated; remember that everyone has bad days, just like you.
Trust No-one . . . is that a sentence? LOL
someone said to me there are two things to give our kids to set them up for life… Roots and Wings…I tell my kids they can do anyhting they desire, and can get through anything.. I have tried to prove that in my life with them too
you are limited only by what you tell yourself you cannot do.
my advice? We live in a cause and effect universe. What you get comes directly from what you create. Create well, your life is your own
Choose to live.
you get out of life what you put in it
“That which is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow”
Keep an open mind, an open heart, and your throat jabbing hand at the ready. Always.
follow your bliss.
My advice? Never take for granted what you already have and NEVER wish away today for a tomorrow that may not be.
write down something you are grateful for everyday
when someone seems to cause **the big bad** emotion in you, don’t react-you can work on this one forever
Be who you are….no one else
Get a damn job!
suck it up, study hard, keep your head bowed, call if you need help, first seek to understand, make your own path, & enjoy the ride
I’d say,”The two constants in life are 1) Change, but it can be dealt with and 2) I love you.” (technically one sentence, yes?)
There you have it, some of the collective wisdom of my social network.Â Youâ€™ll note that some of them are clearly non-advice, rather, humor wrapped in an answers clothing.Â I elected to leave them is, because, one of the best lessons I have learned over my years on this planet is that if you canâ€™t laugh and find humor, even in the most serious of moments, youâ€™ve lost the war before the battle even begins.Â Have a great day, and a great life!
PS HUGE thanks to everyone who participated!!!
PPS If you have anything to add, please do… the more advice the better!!!